Merenjis.Boleh ke??

Salam lovelies...

I think I got food poisoning kot. I am feeling nausea since morning. In fact I dreamed about having nausea and bloated. I cannot think of food right now or I'm gonna throw up.

Oh, no...it's not the baby YET.hehe..

I mmg cannot eat junkfood yg byk n also junkdrink=p Lol!!But I was so stubborn and I ate those for my supper. Quite a lot..cz FYI, japanese junkfood sgt2 oiiishiii (sedap). n also the drink. I am kinda of addicted to it T-T..

The good side of me feeling nausea rite now is..I'm gona stop feeling addictive as this nausea is so x bes T_T

*excuse me..I'm going to throw up*

Ok, let's begin with the topic.

Merenjis.

Will you guys do merenjis in ur ceremony??

At first, I refused to do so. Because..a lot of my friend said it is against Islam. I kept in my heart all the way that I won't be having merenjis ceremony. And I know my mom will no be agreed to my idea.

I talked to my mom about this.

She said, she wants to do it even though I refused. She said, the most important is our niat.

She also said, if we think of imitating other religion from the start, thats where will get the sin.

So, I agreed.

As my friends know me. I am a person who is not really warak (in apperance I must say..cz I wouldn't tell how warak my inside is).

However, I tried to do as much as I cud to not neglect any of my duties towards Allah s.w.t.

Especially when it comes to my wedding day. I don't want the start of my new journey to be full of faults.

I did googling about this topic.

One of the answer that helps clearing my mind was from here which says..

Perarakan, pelamin dan persanding yang dilarang ialah apabila pasangan pengantin melakukan beberapa perkara yang dilarang oleh Islam seperti membuka aurat, bersolek, menunjuk-nunjuk kemewahan pakaian, barang kemas dsbgnya. Ia juga termasuk dalam kategori membazir.
Jika pasangan pengantin berpakaian seperti kebiasaan asalkan kemas dan menutup aurat dan maka tidak ada salahnya untuk bersanding. Ianya adalah sepertimana orang biasa berpakaian kemas dalam kehidupan harian mereka ke pejabat, majlis dsbgnya.
Tepung tawar dan tabur beras kunyit adalah dari budaya hindu dengan kepercayaan ianya dapat menyelamatkan pasangan drpd sebarang nasib buruk atau gangguan makhluk halus. Ia sekarang ini menjadi adat kebiasaan masyarakat melayu tanpa mengetahui sebab-sebab di belakangnya. Mereka melakukannya bukan kerana memohon perlindungan tetapi sebagai menyerikan majlis.


عن ابن عمر قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من تشبه بقوم فهو منهم
حسن صحيح - حجاب المرأة 104 ، الارواء

"barangsiapa yang menyerupai sesuatu kaum ia termasuk dalam gulungan mereka"

Justeru hukumnya adalah haram jika dilakukan sebagai satu cara memohon perlindungan, harus jika ia adalah sekadar penyeri majlis tanpa apa-apa maksud lain di sebaliknya.
Diketahui bahawa sesetengah pihak melarang hal-hal di atas kerana ia bukan berasal dari budaya Islam. Hal ini diakui namun perlu diingatkan bahawa Islam tidak melarang sebarang adat dan budaya selagi ia tidak mengandungi unsur-unsur haram di dalamnya.

(Sumber:Hafiz Firdaus)

Photos of us during merenjis. I found it fun. I wud consider this one of the way we meet each other's family members one to one.hehe..And they usually wished us personally during merenjis tu.

Oh, my merenjis only contained bunga rampai and air mawar (tipu punye). Cz my mom wanted to minimize the imitation to other culture. Thank you mom!;)

Ok, end of this heavy topic.

Anyways, you guys are still free to state ur own opinion as I consider this is a sensitive issue.

Ex-b2b with sensitive stomah,

QueenForADay